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So, you enter a nice romantic place, see a couple of lovers just simply dissolving in one another. Holding hands. In total embrace. Holding one another. Feeling one another breath. Total harmony. Floating spirits. Nonstop rivers of unspoken messages and feelings....... and on and on I can go. What is the first thing most people look for? A ring in either of their hands to make sure they are married, or engaged. Make sure they are acting under the legal shell. If the ring is on, then they must be seriously in love and he is not playing with her emotions, and she is not for his money or position. Simply not playing. If they are married, we immediately assume they are just a new couple. No way they would be married for too long.
We play judges.
We look for checkpoints.
We want everything to be as we know it.
We want things the way we do it.
We want everyone to have strong morals because this is the right way to do things.
Not sure if we are moralistic ourselves or just using morals and ethics to play safe and hide.
We play judges.
We look for checkpoints.
We want everything to be as we know it.
We want things the way we do it.
We want everyone to have strong morals because this is the right way to do things.
Not sure if we are moralistic ourselves or just using morals and ethics to play safe and hide.
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I don't know why, but we still see marriage as a guarantee for love seen as a stable little warm place to turn to.
I dont think we want love to be Eternal. We actually dont believe that. We dont even believe in love. We just want to see them in love for long time, but at the same time have hidden expectation, wish, desire that they fail. It will be just another proof that there is nothign called love. Love doesn't stand alone. Or even stand at all. It has to fail.
'We' do all that only if we are not the couple. When we are in their place we act just like them & we think anyone who tries to judge or criticize us is just jealous.
Haal, I think we do believe in true, eternal love. We're just so sure it will not happen to us, it is proprietory of a small group of chosen ones. So we invented this piece of paper rule or religious weddings (in Romania, there are still people who think that if you haven't been married in a church, God does not see you as married, which sucks, cause God I think knows better than anyone what is for you) to keep us together.
Divorces are still seen as a plague, and no, we are not animals, because animals really don't care that much about what other people think.
At any rate:
"Love doesn't stand alone. Or even stand at all. It has to fail." This could be half Right, but it does not have to fail!
I was told when I was a teenage: "There is nothing called Love" mostly refering to a boy- man / girl-women relationships. Brcause this kind of love never last, this person though. He also believed the Only love that exist is that from a mother to her children and the love of God, because this kind of love is eternal.
My take is that LOVE is a dynamic state. It peaks & falls. Up & dowen. One need to nourish it and work on it. Regardless of the piece of paper, One would need to work way harder to sustain a lovable loving living sharing caring marriage. You may remember that circle many moon ago.
You are Right "Love doesn't stand alone..." You can make it stand, but it takes TWO to dance.
It's Lovely Romantic whe Love dance.
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I think it is a very interesting comment on love, happiness, and fate.
Thanks for the interesting discourse.
Well, I saw the movie. Thought was very interesting. Didnt like it though. But still thought was very inteesting. Sad. I think life is just snapshots of things. The wise is that who can see the big picture. I am neither smart, nor seeing.
Can u reflect more. I really trully miss our discussions. No joke.