BOREDOM & SEX*

Is it a relation with an object? Is it an act of pleasure driven from repetition, familiarity with the known, the 'joy of routine'? Or there is something else.

Sex can be done when we are feeling bored. Probably? A substitute feeling just to replace the boredom we are feeling. Something like eating or drinking while watching a boring seires that we have seen zillion times on television. We have nothign else to do, so why not just watch it again, in this case, have sex again. Better than nothing. A substitute? Probably, again?

Probably will continue!

Interesting post at Zoss's on a book by Rebecca Goldstein.
*The great Alberto Moravia novel, 'Boredom'

Comments

Mohamed said…
Anything to add about the sex part?
9/04/2005 12:51:00 am
Mohamed said…
You sound bored (already!), or maybe intimidated by the topic?
9/06/2005 08:02:00 pm
haal said…
What is in the topic you think would intimidate someone, maybe me specifically?
9/06/2005 10:32:00 pm
zoss said…
I'm about to finish Rebecca Goldstein's first novel, the mind-body problem, in which she presented (through one of the characters) a thesis, basically saying that the object of sexual desire is a double reciprocal mattering.
9/07/2005 08:40:00 am
Mohamed said…
Well, unfortunately in our society sex is treated in a very peculiar way. It is sometimes considered a taboo to talk about in public, yet it is the favorite topic for jokes. So we either don't talk about it, or make fun of it, or use it in all indirect ways, such as video clips. I don't think its properly treated like it should be, a part of our lives (big or small) that should be talked about in a balanced manner.

Sex boredom, and failure to perform seems to be one of the many frustration factors between couples. It shouldn't be intimidating to anyone I think.
9/07/2005 09:14:00 am
haal said…
'..sexual desire is a double reciprocal mattering.'

Zoss, didnt get it. Can you elaborate? Simply though!
9/07/2005 07:06:00 pm
haal said…
We hide or joke about what we fear, or dont know no?
9/07/2005 07:07:00 pm
LouLou said…
haal,

"Zoss, didnt get it. Can you elaborate? Simply though!"

I think Zoss means that making love is about needing & being needed more than the physical release - mattering to each other. It's the hightened sense of mutual awareness.


Zoss please correct me if am wrong. Am just speculating.
9/07/2005 07:20:00 pm
ألِف said…
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9/07/2005 11:05:00 pm
ألِف said…
"Sex & Boredom"..
..a tight relation, how else do you think we reached 70M+!

"When in boredome, with lots of time, have sex, fcuk and scuk"

Apologies to Lennon
9/07/2005 11:08:00 pm
haal said…
Boredom has degraded sex to an act of physical pleasure severed from reality.
9/08/2005 11:19:00 am
haal said…
Was watching a program on Dream by Abraham Eissa discussing a book by Ibn Qaym al-Jawziya. He delved into wondering about why many books (including that of Ibn al-Qaym) did go into complete details about the nature of sex in paradise!! Why was it so important to Muslims to that extent that they shifted the idea of paradise as a global picture, to inquire about mini mini details of sex, feeling the pleasure, their strenght, the nature of the HUR....etc. I couldnt help that they might feel they will be bored after a while and thus Sex will be their only venting area and thus making sure they can handle it, and will be enjoying it. Maybe it is all that matters after all!!!

I personally consider all these details as silly and ridiculous. Bringing us back to our own images that we constructed around paradise and the pleasure we will find up there. But interestingly enough, sexual pleasure, or may I say, earthy pleasure.
9/09/2005 08:30:00 am
S A J Shirazi said…
I dont agree with the theme here. Sex and bordom. No?
9/23/2005 08:26:00 am
haal said…
If you dont agree, then say why then Shirazi.
9/23/2005 09:50:00 am
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